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I remember when working outside of my home the rule
was - "work as hard as you can at work and play as
hard as you can at home". I wouldn't go in on my
day
off and I wouldn't go home early on my days on.
It kept
the boundaries real clear for me.
And with that said I worked 13 hours a day and
my days
off seemed few and far between. The time I did
have off
never really led to much play, as I was always
way too
tired to do anything.
Now that I have changed venue and I am working from
home, I find myself in the same predicament as all
other home-based business owners. Firstly, at
the same
venue I have more than one job function. Not
only am I
running a business but I am also a soccer mom,
dance
coach, cook, cleaner, taxi driver, mother and wife.
Secondly, it is much more difficult to establish
clear
boundaries between business and personal life.
How do your boundaries look? Enjoy this months
Newsletter.
Where do you draw the lines?
Now that I have changed venue and I am working from
home, I find myself in the same predicament as all
other home-based business owners. Firstly, at
the same
venue I have more than one job function. Not
only am I
running a business but I am also a soccer mom,
dance
coach, cook, cleaner, taxi driver, mother and wife.
Secondly, it is much more difficult to establish
clear
boundaries between business and personal life.
We know that we should have boundaries around each
of our roles, but we don't. I believe that the
reason for a
lack of boundaries is a lack of clarity about
what is most
important. We haven't set our personal
standards. How
do you draw a line when you don't know where the
line
is? How do you draw the line, when you are always
being pulled back and forth between your various
roles?
Drawing the line may just mean starting with
some real
simple steps.
Try asking yourself what days and times will you
spend
in each area. What are those areas and what is the
relative importance of each area to your daily life?
So lets begin with Family. Family, you say? Candye
wouldn't it be easier if I logged my work hours
into my
calendar and gave to my family whatever hours
aren't
spent at work? My answer is - "Yes, it would be,
if your
priorities say that work is the most important.
It would
be, if you said on my deathbed I want to make
sure I
have left a legacy to my business".
However, if that is not the case, then you first
have to
make sure that you are setting the right personal
standards. If your highest priority is your
family and
your greatest standard is having a life with the
ones you
love, then draw that boundary first. What hours
would
you like to have available to your family? What
hours/
days would you like to spend not creating
revenue, but
spend building relationships? Log those hours
into your
calendar first. By subtraction then, the rest of
your time
is what you have available for your business.
Once you have truly looked at your schedule from
that
perspective and set aside the time for your
family, you
can smile at your accomplishment. You have put your
family first, congratulations.
Take another look at your calendar, try once
again to
draw in the boundaries - does it look clearer now?
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Good Boundaries |
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What are boundaries?
A boundary is simply where one thing ends and
another begins. This is easy to see in a
physical world. Your skin is a physical
boundary, rules and etiquette are social
boundaries. When boundaries are not physical
they must be agreed upon and enforced. As a
society, we (or our representatives), agree that
we all will drive on the right side of the road.
We also agree on the consequences of violating
that boundary. Even though the boundary and the
consequence of violating it are agreed upon,
they still need to be maintained. This is why
we have a police force.
How do you define your personal boundaries?
If you think of a personal boundary as a place
where people can meet you it feels less
restrictive than the traditional definition of a
limit. Just like "good fences make good
neighbors", "good boundaries make good
relationships". The difficult part is that you
cannot look outside of yourself for validation
of your personal boundaries. So it requires
awareness and self-esteem to know what is a
"safe" place for people to meet you and to
enforce that boundary should it be violated.
Here is an example.
You begin a new job and meet lots of great
people. One person, Stacy, has been especially
friendly and has extended herself by asking you
to go out for coffee after work. You enjoy your
time with her but the next morning at 6:30am she
calls you at home.
For some people this would be just fine for
others this is a gross boundary violation. In
the house I grew up in we had a 10 to 10 rule -
no calls before or after 10am or 10pm. I would
never call anyone unless I knew him or her very
well or it was an emergency outside of those
hours. This boundary I learned from my parents.
As an adult, I enjoy sleeping until 11am and
staying up until 1:00am. For me it is just fine
if someone were to call me at 11:30pm, but if
they call me at 9:00am I consider this a
violation. It is up to me to teach other people
that this is my boundary and I must take
responsibility to enforce it.
Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian are the co-authors of Good
Boundaries - Great Relationships and are the
founders
of The Lighthouse Consulting Services of
Illinois - a full
service personal development company. Questions
and
comments are welcome. Please direct you
response to
contact@lighthoueofillinois.com
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Happy and Energized |
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One of the hardest things to remember when you
run your own business is you have a life outside
of work. When you work from home, with an
office just down the hall, it makes your work
accessible 24 hours a day 7 days a week. You
are also very aware that you are the only one
responsible to produce an income and make your
business a success. It becomes very easy to
fall into the trap of becoming a slave to your
business. This causes you lose sight of what
makes you happy, your energy drains, work
becomes a chore and you suffer stress.
If this has happened or is happening to you it's
time to take back some control and remember why
you chose to run a home based business. Think
of the benefits you envisaged as your own boss-
flexible time schedule, more time with your
family and more time to do the things you enjoy.
But how do you regain some control of your
personal time? How do you be happier and have
more energy while running your own business? By
embracing the concept of Extreme Self-Care.
What is Extreme Self-Care? It's the opposite,
of what you as a slave to your business
practice, which is extreme self-neglect! It is
a concept of creating structures in your life to
regain balance, remember your needs and it helps
you develop strategies to ensure those needs are
met.
Lisa Branigan is a Professional and Personal
Life Coach. Lisa helps people remember they
have a life outside of work. She runs regular
workshops on "How To Be Happier and Have More
Energy" for men and women of all professions.
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For our Monthly Business Call
Our topic this month is organizing yourself for
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